Wearing their best to a church wedding

"Not to a CHURCH we can't!"

Gay civil weddings, then heterosexual. Still worried they'd stand out too much. They COULD live without dressing en femme. They often called to clarify. The hosts assured them, if not at weddings, when DO people overdress? So they did. Parental "you must wear that nice suit we bought" became "I should wear that lovely suit I bought."

They'd been the only three suit lovers in their support group. It forged a bond. With social progress came more frequent wedding invites. They found romantic interests or flings there, too, respecting each other's different needs. Men, women, or other crossdressers.

This church flew a rainbow flag. But still they should not overdo it? Parents might want to protect their kids? The pastor said, kids can learn tolerance young.

They arrived earlier than intended, chatted much more than expected, and danced with others and each other. All without the weight of worries it took great effort to tolerate their self-expression.