In my early 20's, I dated a significantly older woman. I fell deeply in love and early one morning, I surprised her by showing up at her front door in a Civil War uniform and proposed to her right there. She accepted, but soon realized she didn't love me enough to marry me. I now realize she did me a huge favor by breaking it off with me, but at the time, it ripped me to pieces. It took years for me to trust again.